Ok so I know this is an online "journal" and if it were on paper, I highly doubt anyone would snatch it away and write comments on it, but now I have an actual question I want people to respond to.
So...
When you do decide enough is enough? When you are brought to tears? When your stress level makes you a candidate for tranquilizers? When you've given someone a chance over and over and yet they still make the same mistake and refuse to see why maybe, just maybe, THEY are wrong? Or does it come when you've tried to explain yourself to a friend and they can't grasp the concept that you are extremely complex and just want someone who can know that and love you inspite of it, yet they feel the need to either judge or fix you?
Speak, people, speak. Good bloggers...
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I'm not sure how to answer the question, so I'll just share my experience.
I learned a few years back that I can't care about a relationship/friendship/whatever more than the other person. It's one thing to work through some shit with someone. It's another thing to be stressing yourself out because the other person lacks the effort you put forth, or isn't willing to figure out a way to make it work. When it gets to that point, cut them loose.
At least that's my opinion.
But I'm not a doctor. =)
Anna, I think I agree with Drew on this. Sometimes we just find ourselves in relationships that feel like all we are doing is banging our head against a brick wall. Fortunately, there is a remedy...
Stop.
It makes me think of something that one of my high school friend's Dad told us: "I once saw a man hitting himself in the head with a hammer, and when I asked him why, he said 'because it feels so good when I stop!'"
Really, I do know what you are saying. Sometimes, you just need to hit that point where you realize that the best thing you can do, for yourself and the other person, is to just stop. It sucks, but then again, so does banging your head on a wall...
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